ISFJ=me!

This is me!haah.. dont know why but i just thought of this Briggs and Meyer personality test that i took in J1.

ISFJ - The Nurturer

Living

ISFJ children are conscientious, diligent, and rarely a behaviours problem to their parents or teachers. They like to know what is expected, and then they will dutifully and quietly follow through. In some respects, ISFJs behave like 'perfect children' because they try to please their parents, teachers, and those in authority. They work to meet others' requirements if they are in keeping with the ISFJs' value system, even if this involves a sacrifice on their part.
Security and routine are very important to ISFJ children. For some ISFJs, this means knowing exactly who is going to be there after school to take charge or who will be invited to play games with them. This need for security and order also applies in school. ISFJ children like to know exactly what they are supposed to do in school and like to feel certain that they have the skills before being called upon. ISFJs need gentle nudging to move beyond their comfort level. They may worry a lot about any number of things. This is apparent even in young children.
ISFJ children are particularly introspective in the face of adversity. Because of their inward focus, it simply does not occur to them to share their problems with others. They usually have a few close friends whom they are likely to deep as close friends for a lifetime. They often belong to at least one social group. They avoid center stage and contribute willingly in quiet, practical, behind-the-scenes ways. When comfortable, they can radiate their feelings and thoughtful values outward to others. They are often accepted for their kindness and quiet friendliness. They typically select a few special friends and nurture these friendships over long periods of time.
ISFJs shy away from disharmony and try to maintain cooperation at all costs. They may be more cautious and conservative than many of their peers. As young adults, ISFJs set goals with a variety of time frames, ranging from daily goals to long-range ones. If ISFJs have goals of summer vacation trips, they begin to save their money months in advance, gather accurate information on costs, and make lists of what to take. They try to have things in order each day so they will not have to worry too much about tomorrow.
In their careers, ISFJs are often likely to take what comes along; for example, they may accept the first job offer, rather than continue to look for something else and remain in a state of flux. Once in a job, they generally try to make the most of it, since the known is preferable to the unknown. They are loyal employees who diligently work at whatever tasks are given to them. [omg! this is so so true! i need the system in my life!]

Learning and Working

ISFJs tend to be good students, because they diligently follow through in their work to please their teachers. One aspect of pleasing their teachers is wanting to know their teachers' basic requirements so that they can meet them to the letter of the law. They like having assignments that are clear and that tangibly demonstrate that they have worked hard. [yes!]They are not likely to feel comfortable with an independent study project, because independent study leaves them too much on their own without a set of definite procedures.
ISFJs learn best by doing. They like to be involved in their work, perhaps having a work sheet to follow along as the teacher speaks. They may feel comfortable in group activities as long as they are working with a cooperative and task-focused group. They learn well from lectures that are well organized, not too fast paced, and properly sequenced. [yeah..don't all student want that?]Lectures that activate their senses or connect to sensory impressions are very rich for ISFJs. They find arguing to be nonproductive and even uncomfortable. They like clear conclusions to their learning. They want to know the right answer. [err...yes. but the teachers would beg to differ from this method of learning. :( ]They may need to accept that situations do not always have one answer and learn to feel comfortable with that.
At work, ISFJs contribute loyal, sympathetic, consistent, and considerate service to others. They are know for their kindness and for their willingness to go to any length to help those in need. They take the practical needs of people into account when they do their work, and their strong follow-through skills allow them to carry out organizational goals. They do at least what is expected to them and oftentimes more, without attracting attention to themselves. They are painstaking and responsible with detail and routine, and feel it is important to have the right things in the right places at the right times [OMG! YES!].
ISFJs are attracted to occupations that require dedication to others, service, attentiveness to details, and thoroughness. They would rather work with things that they can see - the tangibles that result in something worthwhile for people.
Some occupations are more appealing to ISFJs: bookkeeper, clerical supervisor, curator, family practice physician, health service worker, librarian, medical technologist, nurse, preschool and elementary teacher, typist, and other occupations that provide opportunities for them to meet their need to be of service to others. [huh?!]

ISFJ

hmm.. this will be a random blog. so random that it won't have a title.
haha. can't really point a finger at what i really want to say. well..i'll just let my thoughts flow. :)
how should i put it? i just think that i've been so superficial or maybe i should say insensitive. it's not that i want to but it's really not within my control. there's always the lack of information or rather the lack of understanding of people around me that propels me to form a certain opinion of someone. it's impossible to know everything about a person- his past encounters his present state of mind and even his character. what we know of a person we know now is just a perception and impression that we form from our daily conversations with him/her.
perhaps it's the different experiences that each of us go through that make us choose different paths in our lives. the choice of continuing to study, getting married and settling down, staying single, getting a job etc. choosing either of these gives others a different impression of you. perhaps if you choose to marry young, others will mostly think of the negative reasons for you doing so. but have we ever thought that the person could have other reasons for doing so? maybe it could have been a way of freeing oneself of problems? perhaps it's something that one had always wanted to run away from, unhappy events; it's their way of seeking solace. somehow as grown-ups, or at least we're at a stage when we can't really avert or solve a problem simply by throwing tantrums, making impulsive decisions with the same naivity and ignorance of the consequences as we could when we were young and hot-headed.
okay i think im side tracking. and i've found my point: dont just judge a person based on your acquaintance with him for only a small fraction of your life and think that what you think is 100% true. everyone has his past and it forms what they are today and you cant really fault them. show some empathy for others even though they are just different from you.
and i shan't go on or you'll become totally confused. haa.. im really not on form today.

Happy New Year!!

it's the new year in the lunar calendar! happy new year everyone!
had CNY celebration in school yesterday. haha, not very fun or exciting, but im 'huh' once again. hee... i couldnt find mrs yim to give her the mandarin oranges. and shuyi told me she was actually calling out for me to tell me where she was. when i finally found her, she was sitting there talking to her colleague. but now come to think of it, she must be thinking im so 'huh de yan jing' and 'huh de er duo' that i couldnt find or hear her. opps! she must have felt so malu screaming for me and i didnt respond to her. -.-
ms zhu was cute. i went to give her 2 little mandarin oranges and she didnt expect that. she probably thought i lu guo only and she said hi. i was like huh..and i just dismissed that and wished her a happy new year. she thought the oranges were cute. hee.. credits to jewel who helped us get the oranges. :)
after that went shopping with sister and huh de lian. thought it would be quite weird but i really wanted my sis's opinion and the company of huh de lian. but it wasnt so bad after all, just that both my companions thought i was mei yong coz i felt tired after walking for a while. haha, mean de. i think im really not cut out for shopping lah, maybe im not a typical women. ahaah! but i didnt get the bag yesterday coz it was pouring and we couldnt get back to heeren. :( anyway i got it today! daddy and mummy was nice enough to fetch me to town to get that bag. it costs $39.90, and it's within my budget of $40. wahah! happy le.. tmr bring it to guo nian. looking forward to see my lil' cousin, nicole.wonder if she's grown taller?i hope so!

In memory of Jialing

it's 10 february again. this day 3 years ago, i'll never forget. time really flies, jialing has left us for 3 years. sometimes i wonder whether i've really gotten over it. though we're not the best of friends but her demise has certainly impacted me greatly. it's the first time i'd ever felt that perculiar feeling. the feeling of cold hard truth hitting you, then what comes after is just total disbelief superimposed on a tinge of dizziness. i still remember what went on in my mind minutes after ms leong broke the news to us. i kept thinking 'huh... how could it be?no no no..i must be dreaming. how could a person be alive a few days ago and now you tell me she's dead? really? is this true?' it's just this dull sense of disbelief that lingers in my mind for days. i could still remember the exact words ms leong said to us. " I dont know how to put this so i'll just read from this report. 'Your student, XXX Jia Ling, has passed away.' " this sentence replayed itself several times in my head, and i couldn't even decipher the meaning of 'passed away'. i mean, what do you mean 'passed away'? i just saw her a few days ago. And even till today, i'd still be holding onto this glimmer of hope that i'd see her one day, somewhere and we'd both catch up with each other.

oh well, i dont really know but i think the least i could do is remember her as she was before she left. And of course, i'd treasure everyone around me; i'll keep reminding myself of that. a few days before jiaing left, i wanted to say hi to her during assembly in the hall, but i thought it's okay, i'll do it some other day. And i didnt have that chance to say hi. She was gone. i'd always thought those emails saying 'you should treasure those around you because you will never know when you will lose then' was so cliche and crappy. But now i know, i really should do so before it's too late.

And to jialing: i'd remember you always. 2H'03 will too. this is a song specially to you:
你像蝴蝶飛離我的世界　
我看不見你美麗的臉
眼淚流成河你還是學不會往回飛
你像蝴蝶才回我的世界　
讓我學會感動和感謝
我不停唱你還是聽不見　
我想說的話 你再也無法笑著回答
你現在的另一個家　有沒有會唱歌的月光
是不是下雪會出太陽　會不會你還是想家我在這裏　
還陪著你呼吸
我看著你　以為只是去散心













世界没有任何的改变 但就是少了一个人。这种感觉，你能够体会吗？